Everyday gay life may seem wonderful and easy. Well sorry to burst your bubble but it’s definitely not all sunshine and rainbows. The everyday gay life comes with a lot of odds and ends and unfortunately more negative than positive.

I’m not here to scare you or give you a wrong impression of the gay community, but rather to teach you and prepare you for what you can expect. Yes obviously its not all bad I mean the gay community is a very unique and colorful community filled with loving and supporting people.

So without further distractions, here are what you can expect (The good and the bad):

Judgment (from other communities):

Judgment is probably the worst thing any person of the LGBTQI+ community, not necessarily just gay men, can go through. Judgment is one of those factors you are going to have to learn to live with its not going to go away after a few years. Look it might get easier to deal with judgment eventually and it will get easier to cope with it, but most people won’t change their believes and there for it will stick around for most of your life. The reason for this is that there are still so many people in the world who just don’t agree with same-sex relationships. I personally think this certain group of people aren’t necessarily stubborn or rude but rather uneducated about different sexual orientations and same-sex relationships. If you want to see less judgment throughout your lifetime, you are going to have to teach these people about the normal differences we all share. After all no one is perfect and Love Is Love we can’t choose the people we fall in love with. These people need to learn that love doesn’t see race, culture, gender or color.

Judgment is mostly seen in different religions and don’t get me wrong I personally have no issue with religious people, personally I am a religious person myself. But people always use religion in the wrong way to start conflict. You can be religious but still be human. We will discuss more on his topic in a post that will be released soon. We don’t want to step on any toes in these early days.

Support from more people than you expected.

Funny enough with the previous topic being judgment you’re  probably wondering with all this judgment going on who will possibly support you? Well to your surprise, just like there are so many people who judge there are just as many people who support you. According to polls done by Pew Research Centre in 2004 Americans opposed same-sex marriage by a margin of 60% to 31%. Polls has shown them that support for same-sex marriage has been slowly growing over the years. Based on a polling done by them in 2019 a majority of Americans support same-sex marriage by 61% and 31% oppose it. These polls were done in America alone. So does this give you an idea of how many people actually support you? Sometimes it might still feel as if the whole world is against you but I can assure you that’s not the case.

If you are still in the closet this is a very important topic which you need to pay attention too. This will make it easier for you to come out, knowing there are so many supporters out there. These supporters will help you and lift you up in life. Just think about it if you surround yourself with people who will judge you and be negative towards you, you will become negative and dull. This also won’t encourage you to come out. On the other side if you surround yourself with positive and supporting people you will only speak positive things about yourself and your sexual orientation. It will be easier for you to support yourself  through your coming out journey. I agree that coming out is not easy but supporters will make it a whole lot easier.

So this is the same than most things you will experience in your life. There are good people and bad people. There are haters and there are supporters, there are arrogant people and understanding ones. Just be careful who you open up to at first. Not everyone will react the same.

Discrimination.

Discrimination is another factor which plays a huge role in the lives of gay men and many groups of the LGBTQI+ community. It can happen anywhere from your local coffee shop to the workplace and many other public spaces. Even though people are becoming more acceptable of same sex marriage and the idea of different sexual orientation. Many gay men and other communities are still experiencing harassment, discrimination and sometimes it goes as far as physical abuse.

Forms of discrimination:

Very obvious and noticeable prejudgment and discrimination. For example:[When a openly gay male is not given a certain job because of his sexual orientation or if he is not promoted for this reason. It might be because the employer thinks he is not cut out for the job because of physical appearance etc.]

Discrimination or stereotypes that create the feeling of difference. This form of discrimination is no less harmful than the one mentioned above. For example:[Use of the word gay in a pejorative way.”Negative connotation”]

This is just a few forms of discrimination there are still a lot more that we will discuss is further blogs so keep an eye out for them.

Because of the terrible things people say and do; gay men and again, a lot of the other communities are more likely to suffer from depression and anxiety. This is a big reason for suicide in these different communities.

That is why it is so important to think before you speak. Whether you are straight, gay, black or white always keep in my how the words that come out of your mouth are going to affect other people’s lives.

Love.

The last factor we will be discussing in this blog for today will be LOVE. It’s a very common word we are all familiar with and we all show. Well in this case it won’t be the love you have for people but the other way around. We’re going to chat about how people show you love.

Yess I guess some of you might feel that there are very few people who truly love you but youre wrong. In fact you are loved by so many. It’s this love that keeps you going in the hardest of times. Whether it is love from your parents, grandparents, siblings, co-worker, etc. You might not see the love they have for you but you can feel it when they talk to you, when they laugh with you. These are people you will always have in your life in good and bad times. When things don’t go as planned remember that these people were there for you so never turn your back on them. They will support you no matter what.

“If we deny love that is given to us ,if we refuse to give love because we fear pain or loss, our lives will be empty, our loss greater.”

~ Oprah Winfrey

Love is a very important factor that you need, especially when you are in the process if coming out. This is the time you will need the most love and affection from people who are closest to you. This will make the process much easier for you to deal with.

Unfortunately not everyone has this type of support system at home and this is the reason 2 Fab to Fracture was starter. Here we are a family who will love you unconditionally, support you, and answer all questions you might have. We all need to feel loved and wanted. 2 Fab to Fracture is here to be that support system for you.

 

This brings us to the end of today’s blog stay tuned for more exciting things that are yet to be announced.

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